Many of you have been following my Paleo journey… and the last week or so I have sucked at writing down in my food log, blogging daily, etc… I figured I owed you a little explanation.
No workout this morning either. I have spent from Wednesday through Sunday sleeping and being awake weird and crazy hours. Waking at 6am and going to sleep at 6am the following day. Maybe with a nap from midnight to 3am. Awake again at 6am.
Because someone very special in my life; needed me. He requested and planned for our special time together. He is sweet, caring, handsome, sarcastic, funny, and he gets me.
Who is this mystery man?
We have been married for over 10years and taking this time for our marriage is essential. We have been together and known each other for 17years.
And I’ll tell you — when a man asks for your time — you do it. Even if it comes at the cost of your routine and sleep patterns.
Our work schedules are completely awful and suck as a result we miss a lot of time together. This wasn’t about sex and being together physically — we could do that anytime (yup even with kids — that’s what locks and lunch dates are for).
It was about a deeper connection and communication. I didn’t know it — but I needed this too. I feel more confident, loved, rejuvenated, and excited about our path.
It is so easy to fall into the patterns of every day life.
We didn’t watch TV or movies. We put down the phones and sat across from one another; no surfing Facebook or texting others.
We spent uninterrupted and undivided time together. Talking.
We talked about our upcoming vacations, our favorite memories as kids, things on our buckets lists, our most recent embarrassing moment, how the one (or more) of the kids “owned” us with their quick wit, funny stories from work, of how frustrating the kids were being, and anything else that came to mind.
We didn’t let our conversation get stuck on a subject or stall on a frustrating subject — but communicating frustrations is usually necessary to being honest and open — and to help you come closer, solve a problem together, and be on the same page (especially with children).
But we were also able to sit in the silence of “nothing to say” and turn away and leave the conversation because we were bored. It did get awkward and uncomfortable a few times… which resulted in face making and giggles (maturity level = 1).
This time and reconnection with my husband was beautiful. And the fact he *asked* me for his time?
Feeling a little more balanced.
I challenge you to try this with your partner.